A high-value, bundled product that applies relationship coaching principles to fun, shared experiences.
- Product: The Intention Builder Pack ($39 one-time purchase)
- What it is: A themed, downloadable kit designed to be used by a couple (or two people in a relationship) during a date night.
- Why it's unique: Each kit includes a structured activity, but the prompts are explicitly linked back to Zocialized's core emotional concepts.
- Example: The 'Vision Alignment' Kit. Includes a collaborative digital template (for Notion/Google Docs) for a 90-minute planning session with reflection questions like: "Identify one thing you need from your partner (a 'need' on the Mood Meter) and one thing you are willing to accept (a 'control/influence/accept' model).
The Mood Meter
The Mood Meter is a visual tool (often a square grid) designed to help individuals identify, name, and understand their emotions. It is a key component of the RULER approach to social and emotional learning, developed by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence.How it Works
Emotions are plotted on a two-dimensional grid based on two factors:- Energy (Y-axis): Ranging from low (depleted) to high (energized).
- Pleasantness (X-axis): Ranging from unpleasant/low comfort to pleasant/high comfort.
The Four Quadrants
The intersection of these factors creates four colored quadrants, each representing a general category of emotional states:- ❤️ Red (High Energy / Unpleasant): Emotions like Anger, Frustration, Stress, Fear.
- 💛 Yellow (High Energy / Pleasant): Emotions like Joy, Excitement, Elation, Motivation.
- 💚 Green (Low Energy / Pleasant): Emotions like Calm, Contentment, Peaceful, Balanced.
- 💙 Blue (Low Energy / Unpleasant): Emotions like Sadness, Disappointment, Tired, Lonely.
Relevance to the Date Night Package
By using the Mood Meter, the kits encourage partners to go beyond saying "I'm fine" and instead articulate their precise emotional state and why they need something. For example, instead of asking for help, one might identify they are in the Blue Quadrant (e.g., Disappointed) and, using the tool, communicate a need for comfort or understanding.
🔄 The Control/Influence/Accept Model (CIA Model)
This model is a stress-management and problem-solving framework, widely used in coaching, which encourages people to focus their energy constructively by categorizing factors in a situation.The Three Spheres
- Control (Inner Sphere):
- Focus: Things you have direct and complete control over.
- Examples: Your own actions, attitude, effort, words, decisions, and reactions.
- Action: Take direct, proactive steps.
- Influence (Middle Sphere):
- Focus: Things you cannot directly control but can potentially affect or persuade.
- Examples: Other people's opinions, moods, behavior, or collaboration on a project.
- Action: Use persuasion, strong communication, expertise, and relationships to encourage a favorable outcome.
- Accept (Outer Sphere/Concern):
- Focus: Things that are entirely outside of your ability to control or influence.
- Examples: The past, the weather, government policy, major external events, or a partner's fundamental personality.
- Action: Accept the reality of the situation (not passive resignation, but active acknowledgement), adapt your plan, and focus your energy back onto your 'Control' and 'Influence' spheres.
Relevance to the Date Night Package
The example in the kit uses this model to structure reflection:- "Identify one thing you need from your partner (a 'need' on the Mood Meter)" This falls into the Influence sphere (you can ask for it, but you can't force your partner to provide it).
- "and one thing you are willing to accept ('control/influence/accept' model)" This ensures you identify a factor that falls into the Accept sphere, helping you let go of trying to change an unchangeable dynamic and instead adapt your own response.
- Example: The 'Vision Alignment' Kit. Includes a collaborative digital template (for Notion/Google Docs) for a 90-minute planning session with reflection questions like: "Identify one thing you need from your partner (a 'need' on the Mood Meter) and one thing you are willing to accept (a 'control/influence/accept' model).